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Don't Take Things Personally

By Sicebise Msengana







"Don't take every rejection or break up personally. Get over it and don't let it define who you are." - Sicebise Msengana



Anti-African Manhood Racism in Black America Part 1

By Sicebise Msengana










Okay, we get you hate Black men. There's no need to lump us all with inferior minded Black men.  There are two things to be learned from this typical response:

 (a) Prejudice in the Black community is instrumental in other people taking advantage of Africans everywhere, they may be.

Angel of Death

By Sicebise Msengana






It was 9 p.m on a Saturday night and I was visiting a friend in hospital. As I was waiting for my turn; a girl about the age of 16 years was put on life support.

Become Happy Like Gods

By Sicebise Msengana










"Being godless is simply a great thing. We do not have to enslave ourselves with the nonsense beliefs and magical rituals of religions.  We know everything is over with this life. 

Weekend Inspiration: Baby Making Music by Luther Vandross

By Sicebise Msengana








Have you ever been in love? How does it feel to  constantly think about someone special?

Love can make us do CRAZY things at times. Scientific research has proven that love can make us act in ways that we would not normally do because of the feelings of love.

African Erotica: Chocolate Fantasy

By Sicebise Msengana










ROMANCE in the African context is one that is ignored by various scholars and researchers. But Africans have been falling in love for thousands of years. Love-making was and still is essential to the survival of our race. Our ancestors in ancient Egypt and Nubia, had been the creators and mothers of African civilisations and it was vital for them to know about this knowledge.

Weekend Inspiration

By Sicebise Msengana










1. Life is like a camera. Just focus on what’s important, capture the good times, develop from the negatives, and if things don’t turn out – take another shot. — Unknown

4 Leadership Styles: He who serves, leads

By Sicebise Msengana












A great nation’s direction and its success is determined by its leadership. A leadership’s vision will determine whether a corporation wins or loses. When the leadership has no vision or goal to press forward, you will note that followers suffer immensely and headed for annihilation.

The Most Critical Question of Your Life

By Sicebise Msengana







If there is no struggle, there is no progress—Frederick Douglass

Sometimes you will find people saying “I’m a human being” “Love is colourblind.” It’s true, to the great extent.  Everyone wants to be in an amazing relationship and have great weekend sex.

Rejection: It's Only a Minority

By Sicebise Msengana






Do you get that feeling like the whole world has abandoned you and you're all alone? How does it feel?

This excerpt is from my upcoming book that will be published  next year, titled How to Love Again 

Would you Trade your Soul in Exchange for Wealth and Fame?

By Sicebise Msengana

My rich uncle used to say 'I'm at a good place. Not emotionally... I'm at the bank to check my babies [money].' OK, he actually never said that.  But most people have an intimate attachment to money, that they would die without money. 

Try to imagine...

The Final Wake Up Call: Africans, You Are On Your Own Pt2

By Sicebise Msengana













Although Tunde Obadina’s tone absolves the perpetrators, he writes:
‘The triangular slave trade was a major part in the early stages of the emergence of the international market. The role of slave-trading African ruling classes in this market is not radically different from the position of the African elite in today's global economy. They both traded the resources of their people for their own gratification and prosperity.’


Behind oppressed black people; there are white people. So Africans must be careful with being the scapegoat  to take the blame for the problems created by the white supremacy system. While all the American/European colonial powers refused to take responsibility for their genocidal actions and got away scot free – yet again – ‘Blaming the victim’ is now the focus of everyone’s attention and is all out for the public to see.

But this time we are going to look at the continued submission of Africans to the system that oppresses them. The demise of Africa is hugely tied to the Uncle Tom leadership that have been trained by the Europeans in white institutions and then s(e)lected for our people by these same whites as "spokesmen" for our people.

There’s an old proverb that says: you can feed a hen, but you can’t make it fat. OK, that’s not a proverb, and it’s not popular.  The point is that you can’t force anyone to do anything. If  African people refuse to shoulder some of the burdens and decide that nothing is never their fault. Then learned helplessness allows Africans to become emotional vampires who complain about never-ending array of injustices that come their way.

What about the numerous  times Africans refuse to come together and collectively, work to solve their problems? What about the times Africans will kill each other, e.g. xenophobic attacks on the  so-called foreign nationals in South Africa? Africans will forgive White people, Asians (i.e. Arabs, Jews, Indians etc.) and everyone else. But they can’t forgive themselves. African-Americans forgave white slave-traders, but can’t forgive their African brothers and sisters. African South Africans forgave apartheid war criminals, but can’t live in peace with other Africans. To them, if you’re black, not native to South Africa and therefore, ‘you’re a foreigner. Die!’

So mentally enslaved, Africans rather love everyone except themselves. Sometimes I look at my blood relatives in South Africa who identify with their oppressors and think to myself, ‘Africans are long-suffering that our need to belong cripples our common sense to the extent that Africans are willing to participate in self-inflicted destructive behaviours (the urge to embrace others, even if they don’t embrace Africans), that are not in the interests of the African people.’
Imagine if we Africans could redirect those emphatic, warm feelings towards ourselves. How better off we could be.
 Africans collectively refuse to listen to Dr. John Clarke’s words ‘You have no friends.’ What will it take for Africans to wake up and see the writing on the wall? It is a dog-eat-dog world. Nobody cares for Africans. From China to India, ‘Africans are collateral assests for the entire world.’

Africa has been invaded for  over 3000 years, and we have no learnt nothing from it. Non-Africans were able to communicate and act upon those racial stereotypes such as African sub-humanity based on  centuries of scientific racism.

Why do Africans keep appealing to the compassion of people who clearly don’t care? Why keep begging the system of exploitation to give you back your lands or integrate yourself into it? That’s ignorance. Because any genocidal law (and racial slurs) that threatens the livelihoods of Africans, deserves to be broken or disobeyed. There’s  no law in this universe that says ‘Africans are inferior’, instead we have a bunch of genocidal legislations and negative racial attitudes that were artificially created by war criminals, child rapists and race thugs.

These are just nothing but symptoms of being a naive, immature and a political gullible people. White people and Asians oppress you for over 3000 years, and you don’t catch up. What do you call that? Intelligence or ignorance? The latter option perfectly describe Africans not unless they change and experience an epiphany (a total change of heart).

Land reform is a priority for Africans. Before we begin talking about ‘saving Africa’, let’s talk about the land in foreign invaders’ hands.

Africans must save themselves and stop asking Non-Africans, if they feel bad about Africa belonging to Africans. White people and other Non-Africans are well aware that Africa isn’t their homeland. They know they don’t belong here. But it’s Africans who have illusions about their identity and ancestral lands.

The solutions to African problems must come from nobody but Africans themselves. Take what you can and let everyone else jump off a cliff. Take what you know belongs to you. Stop debating whether Africa belongs to Africans or not.  There’s no debate. Stop seeking Non-African validation program  such as ‘Black Lives Matter’ because convincing Whites, Arabs, Indians, Chinese and many other Non-Africans that Africans are not inferior is a waste of time and energy.


The Final Wake Up Call: Africans, You Are On Your Own Pt2

By Sicebise Msengana













Although Tunde Obadina’s tone absolves the perpetrators, he writes:
‘The triangular slave trade was a major part in the early stages of the emergence of the international market. The role of slave-trading African ruling classes in this market is not radically different from the position of the African elite in today's global economy. They both traded the resources of their people for their own gratification and prosperity.’

Real Love Counts The Most in The Long Term

By Sicebise Msengana










Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses.
Ann Landers

During my time in high school, I had a massive amount of love for a beautiful girl.  Sometimes I would lay awake at night and think  about my crush, I would close my eyes and see myself asking her out.

We would laugh at each other’s jokes and cuddle like puppies...until I opened my eyes. This fantasy could keep me busy for hours on end. The daydreaming continued until I summoned my courage to ask for her number. Which she gave me. The first dates were great. It was the best period of my life...what a connection!

What Anti-racist whites should do to help

By Sicebise Msengana











'White people, collectively, DO NOT CARE about the TRUTH of what is being said, written, or broadcast about black people as long as the FOCUS stays on “what is wrong with black people” and the PRESSURE keeps black people on the self-defeating treadmill of proving to (CONVINCING) whites that blacks are not inferior'.-TrojanPam

I think one of the BIGGEST problems with white ‘anti-racism’ activism is the fact that race for white people is not a struggle they have to endure on a day-to-day basis unlike Africans. So to them, the discussion of ‘RACE’, gets them on a defensive mode and most white people literally IMPLY to the VICTIMS of racism/white supremacy—‘You’re the ones keeping racism alive.’

African Manhood

By Sicebise Msengana











Everyone understands self-preservation and Group economics, except for African people. African people refuse to exercise collective economic, political, genetic and cultural action where we organise, arm( or fighting to destroy the enemy's military strength through military operations), finance a UNIFIED political agenda and establish revolutionary power.
When other ethnic groups such as Chinese,

You Create Your Reality

Litha Mlido Mdunana
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Let ME Tell you something you didnt know about you : You create your own reality and no one does it for but you so dont blame others for what you created. Instead take full responsible for that because you dont blame anyone when you are successful in life you take the full credit. Well vice vercer you must also give credit to yourself for your Failures and remember failing is there to push u on a different directions were success is disguised as hard work,sleepless nights.

LOVE & TRUTH

The Myth of African Deadbeat Fathers

By Sicebise  Msengana
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Dr. Umar Johnson writes "You’ve heard the rumors, for they are everywhere, and although unproven, they still resonate as “facts” throughout much of American society. The untruth that Black men don’t want to care for their children has become a staple in American folklore. Even sadder is the fact that these rumors are not only postulated by the numerically dominant white majority of this country, but are actually created, maintained and reinforced by the Black community itself...."

500 Years of Resentment and Anger Against Africans

By Sicebise Msengana











I won't speak for  'Hebrew Israelites' and 'Black Indians', let their advocates speak for them. I will only speak for Africans -- both continental Africans and Diaspora. I understand that these pseudo-identities our people have picked up are coping mechanisms in a white society that bashes anything that looks 'African.' The poor arguments are in contradiction to scientific and archeological evidence. The purpose of these ideologies are to serve as a group therapy for those affected by slavery.

Secularism: Scepticism Over The Supernatural Fantasies

By Sicebise Msengana












Predictions for the future:
In the years to come there will be a big evolution of religion. In the next 50-100 years, it won't be the religion we know like today. Just as there is a revolution in world religions. Take a look at Christianity, it is not what it used to be. Some of the teachings taught today would make the epistles and martyrs turn in their graves. For example, prosperity gospel that is used to cheat people of their hard earned money by promises of "divine blessings," faith healing and many other outlandish claims.

Years ago, I asked a person of faith, why doesn't God perform miracles as He used to do in ancient times. The answer was simple: "miracles have failed to convince people of God's love and grace.  Even if God performed miracles through his prophets, the emphasis today is put on people using faith to find and please God." A look at Islam, Take a look at Islam in its infancy. The religion was built on bloody conquests of the pagans. The Jihad or holy wars were fought in the name of Allah were means to spread the Muslim faith across the world.

But today one may find that there is a slight deviation from the original teachings of the Quran. Islam is becoming more tolerant and accepting particularly among the Western countries. Much of the Quran is interpreted metaphorically by many Islamic scholars. The same holds for other world religions. In the next 100 years, humanity for the first time may witness a form of religion that is secular in nature. We might see a form of world religion that incorporates all world religions in one religions system. A religious system that is tolerant to the homosexual community, the doctrine of Hell is metaphor of a real place. Scepticism over blind obedience.

Reason and logic over the supernatural and miracles. Sick people over depraved sinners. Today, scientists are trying to solve the problem of consciousness, if the findings reveal that the soul is not immortal. Then, Heaven and Hell, will be allegories of real places. Instead, of people going to suffer in hell for eternity. Hell could be a place that purifies sinners who were unable to attain sanctity in this lifetime. As science advances people won't need God to provide explanations for the difficult questions. Scientific advancements will fill most of the gaps. The fundamental doctrines of this secular religion is more of a "lifestyle religion." One can believe in God, or not, God won't hold you accountable for your lifestyle choices. A person can do whatever they want as long as they are good to their fellow human beings, tithe to church.